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I know I have not posted in a very long time and most of you suspect rightly that
there is a reason: I actually do not know what to say!
The last 6 weeks have been an ongoing up and down and unfortunately I cannot even blame it on the visits of my parents and friends. Those visits helped because
they gave me a chance for some social interaction. But the family peace is constantly threatened and is going up and down. For example on October 6th (just days after my last relatively positive last post) I could have reported: “This is it! We are going home! Won’t work! Can’t stand each other anymore and before we kill each other, we better go home!” Unfortunately  there is no house to get “home” to anymore. On the other hand that raises the question what is home? Home is probably not a house but people; the people who  love you, care for you and take part and interest in your life. And where are  those people? Of course in Hilton Head and in Germany. So those places would be home, even without a house!
Like one of my favorite songs in church: The church is not a building….the church is
its people…
Back to the beginning of October: the mood was shot, communications stopped, tears flowed and it was clear: we failed, we give up, and we go home. Then my parents came and the time for some productive and sensuous communication possibilities was even less…fortunately Ben slept several nights with my patents in a hotel and we got a chance to talk and fight some more. Manfred and I are both
persons who do NOT easily give up! We both hated the thought of having failed.
But we did not see a real solution either. Ever since we talk, plan and discuss and sometimes get very close to fighting again….and nothing seems to be right! We came up with a compromise 2 weeks ago but it seems to be one that neither Manfred nor I are really happy with. We both feel like we gave up too much for this compromise! So discussions and new (never before thought about) crazy plans arise; see pics! Which makes no sense at all! We seem to be lost, utterly lost in knowing who we are and what we actually want and intended with this trip!!!
Especially since we seldom seem to be on the same page anymore. Most of the time it seems like we want totally opposite things! I am mightily surprised by this change of the original (hoped for) plan! I do know that I wanted to explore and live new ways (and challenges) of life but I did not asked specifically for new
challenges in my relationship (I already had enough of those before we started the trip). But so far this seems to be the outcome:
WHAT the heck do WE (as a married couple) want ??? Can we ever be on the same page? I know mostly what I want…I am not sure what Manfred is looking for….and I have no clue what we both together are looking for!
I am even reluctant to post the compromise we came up with because I have no idea if it will change and I will have to correct myself…
Again I am back to stating that I do not know what to say! We  will (as planned) fly home to Hilton Head on November 19th for Thanksgiving  with all our friends and then will go on home to Germany on December 4th  to spend Christmas with family!
What  will we do in 2013? I guess only God knows!
We need to keep working on it and we need all your prayers because FAILURE IS
NOT AN OPTION!
Looking at a farm near Pagosa Springs, CO

 

Checking out a log cabin near Durango, CO

 

Are we really considering buying a farm near Durango, CO?

 

Durango, CO

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